Youíve got the best boyfriend in the world, but his friends donít like you. Fortunately, if your boyfriend really cares about you, heís not going to let his friendsí opinions influence his. However, there are some things you can do to win his friends over and make everyoneís lives easier.
Do They Really Hate You?
Before you resolve yourself to the fact that your boyfriendís friends hate you, you need to figure out if itís true or if itís just your imagination. If you really think they hate you, have a talk with your boyfriend. Itís possible that his friends are like that with everyone, and if you talk to him about it, it will give you the reassurance that you need. If he tells you that his friends really donít like you, donít get upset and donít ask him to choose.
Has He Been Talking?
Sometimes guys talk to their friends about things that are bothering them and problems with their girlfriends. Itís unfortunate, but it happens. Their friends get upset because, of course, they take his side. Itís kind of like girl talk, for guys. If this is whatís going on, the two of you should make a pact to keep your personal issues private.
ďLet him spend some time with his friends
Are They Jealous?
His friends could be resentful because they feel that youíve taken their friend away. Before you came along he probably spent most of his time with them, and now heís totally devoted to you. Itís not so much that they hate you. Theyíre jealous because they donít get to spend as much time with him anymore.
If this is the case, you can turn it around and win them over by giving your boyfriend more guy time. Let him spend time with his friends when youíre not around. When heís out with his friends, let him be with them. Donít call him or text him, or accidentally bump into them.
You and your boyfriend should also start including his friends in some of your activities so they wonít feel left out. Make them feel like they are a part of things, but donít try to hard or act phony. Soon, they will start to think of you as a friend too, and will start to look forward to the group outings.
Are They Just Looking Out For Him?
Maybe they are just trying to protect him. If his last girlfriend hurt him, they might just be worried that you are going to do the same thing. This is one case where you need to show them, not tell them. After theyíve seen that you really do care about your boyfriend, they will realize youíre not out to hurt him.
Do They Think Youíre Possessive?
If you and your boyfriend are too affectionate in front of them, they might see you as possessive. Itís best to save the affectionate displays for when you two are alone. When youíre with his friends donít constantly hover over him. Give that boy some room to breathe.